Are We Giving Gifts, or Buying Our Children’s Love?

Parenting and Family Wellbeing expert Dr Rosina McAlpine interviewed on ABC Radio

Gift giving is one of life’s great joys, but when it comes to children, could our generosity sometimes send the wrong message?

In this thought-provoking radio conversation, Dr Rosina McAlpine family and wellbeing expert explores how parents and grandparents can make gift giving more meaningful, while helping children develop gratitude, healthy self-worth and an appreciation for what really matters.

From Christmas wish lists and pocket money to rewards for good grades and paying children to complete chores, Dr Rosina considers when a well-intentioned gift can become transactional. She also shares a clever strategy for handling those familiar shopping trips when children suddenly decide they want everything they see.

The conversation also tackles a sensitive issue for separated families: what happens when gift giving becomes a competition between parents? And how can families keep the focus on what children truly need rather than who can buy the biggest present?

Perhaps the most touching insight comes from memories of grandparents who had little money to spend, but gave something far more valuable: their time. Baking together, gardening, sharing meals and simply listening can become treasured memories that last a lifetime.

As Dr Rosina beautifully reminds us, sometimes the greatest gift isn’t the present. It’s being present.

Listen to the full interview for practical ideas that could change the way your family thinks about giving.