Are We Raising Praise Dependent Kids Without Realising It?

Parenting and Family Wellbeing expert Dr Rosina McAlpine interviewed on ABC Radio

“Good girl” and “brave boy” might sound harmless, but what if those everyday phrases are shaping our children in ways we never intended? In this thought provoking radio conversation, Dr Rosina McAlpine family and wellbeing expert challenges how we think about praise and what it really teaches our kids.

Rather than easing pressure, constant praise can quietly create a dependence on external validation. As Dr Rosina explains, children may begin to act not because it is the right thing to do, but because they are chasing approval. Over time, that can impact confidence, decision making and even relationships.

The discussion goes deeper, unpacking how labels like “smart” or “brave” can lock children into a fixed mindset, leaving little room for mistakes or growth. Instead, the focus shifts to recognising behaviour, encouraging self reflection and helping children build an internal compass.

There are also practical, relatable examples parents can use straight away. From asking reflective questions to reinforcing family values, the approach is simple yet powerful. Even grandparents are part of the conversation, highlighting how consistent language across the family matters.

If you have ever wondered whether you are praising your child the right way, this interview offers a fresh perspective that may just change how you speak to your kids forever.