Creating a Family Mission Statement: A Guiding Compass for Stronger Family Connections

Dr Rosina McAlpine interviewed on ABC Radio Illawarra

In a recent ABC Illawarra radio interview, Parenting Expert Dr Rosina McAlpine shared a simple but powerful idea that many families have never considered: creating a family mission statement.

Listen to the full interview

We are familiar with mission statements in workplaces and organisations. They define shared values, clarify direction and act as a compass for decision making. Yet in family life, where our most important relationships exist, we rarely take the time to define what truly matters to us.

A family mission statement is a short collection of words or sentences that capture your shared values and the kind of family you want to be. It might include principles such as kindness, respect, curiosity, gratitude or faith. The key is that it is created together. Even young children can contribute simple ideas like love or fun, while teenagers can offer meaningful input about responsibility, flexibility and mutual respect.

Dr Rosina explained that the process is just as important as the outcome. Sitting down together, perhaps over a favourite meal, and discussing questions like “What do we love doing together?” or “How do we want to treat one another?” strengthens connection and gives every family member a voice

To bring the statement to life, some families create a visual crest with symbols representing their values. Others display their words on the fridge or frame them on the wall. The important step is to use it. When conflict arises, parents can gently refer back to the shared values and ask, “Is this how we agreed to treat each other?”

A family mission statement is not about rules or daily routines. It is about identity. It becomes a guiding star that helps families navigate busy seasons, changing dynamics and growing independence, while keeping their core values front and centre.