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This week, Dr Rosina answers this question with practical strategies and ideas for parents raising preschool and early primary school children. "My four year old is very independent and gets frustrated when she can't do something or when we try to help. How do I stop her from getting irritated when things get hard?" Hope you enjoy this video and walk away with practical ideas you can put into place today to help your child manage their emotions and learn how to problem-solve!

Parenting expert Dr Rosina McAlpine on the Today Show In Australia, one in five families is blended, meaning parents and children from previous relationships come together to form new families. While the idea of blending households is becoming more common, the reality of making it work can be challenging. In a recent discussion, parenting expert Dr. Rosina McAlpine and stepmother Sarah Leonardi McGrath shared valuable insights into managing these challenges effectively. This blog explores their perspectives on navigating the complexities of blended families. The Unique Challenges of Blended Families Blended families often form following a significant life event, such as divorce or the loss of a parent. According to Dr. Rosina McAlpine, children in these situations can experience emotional turmoil, behavioral issues, and confusion, making the transition particularly delicate. Introducing a step-parent too soon can amplify these challenges, making it crucial for parents to have open and honest conversations with their children. The Role of a Stepparent: Authority vs. Friendship When Sarah Leonardi McGrath married former Australian cricketer Glenn McGrath, she became stepmother to Holly and James. For Sarah, establishing her role was about finding a balance between authority and affection. Contrary to the idea of being a “friend” to stepchildren, Sarah emphasized the importance of setting clear boundaries and taking on the full responsibilities of a parent. “You can’t just have all the responsibilities without the rewards of being a parent,” she shared. Dr. McAlpine supported this view, suggesting that while it’s important to foster a friendly and open environment, children need clear parental roles to feel secure. Effective step-parenting involves showing love and providing guidance, rather than trying to replace a biological parent. Common Challenges for Stepparents The emotional complexities of step-parenting are often underestimated. As highlighted by a viewer's comment, step-parents can feel undervalued despite their emotional and financial contributions. The sentiment of “you’re not my parent” can be particularly hurtful. Dr. McAlpine advised that such reactions are usually a reflection of a child’s unresolved grief or confusion. She stressed the importance of managing personal emotions and focusing on the child’s needs. Putting Children First: Keys to a Successful Blended Family Both Sarah and Dr. McAlpine agreed that the success of a blended family depends significantly on the strength of the couple’s partnership. United parenting helps create a stable environment where children can thrive. Dr. McAlpine advised parents to seek support for themselves to manage their own emotions effectively, emphasizing that children benefit most when parents demonstrate mutual respect. Sarah’s guiding principle in her step-parenting journey has been to treat her stepchildren as she would want someone to treat her own children if she were no longer around. This golden rule has helped her build a strong, loving bond with her stepchildren. Conclusion Blended families are increasingly common, but they require careful navigation, clear boundaries, and a lot of love and patience. The experiences shared by Sarah Leonardi McGrath and Dr. Rosina McAlpine offer valuable lessons for step-parents striving to create harmonious family dynamics. At the heart of successful step-parenting lies a simple yet powerful principle: put the children's well-being first, always.

Parents are often criticised by others as being "bad parents". Many parents and carers also judge themselves and feel guilty for making parenting choices that leave their child and themselves  both  feeling negative emotions. However, it is important to remember that supporting a child's social, emotional, academic and psychological wellbeing is challenging and stressful - especially in the busy and complex world we live in. To succeed, parents can benefit from parent education programs and accessing resources to nurture their child's development. Parenting isn't about perfection  - it's about progress. Every parenting challenge is an opportunity for the parent to learn, grow, and with this new understanding, to create a loving environment where their children feel valued, understood, and supported - the ideal context to support a child's mental and physical wellbeing. To read the full article written by other parenting experts see https://www.momjunction.com/articles/everything-need-know-bad-parenting_00256/

Are you raising an only child and worried that they may be lonely, may not learn to share and be spoiled? If you'd like to learn more about: 1. Where the myths about only children came from 2. The research on only children when compared with children from larger families and how only children fair when it comes to: Academic achievement,  Intelligence,  Sociability Character and the  Parent-child relationship Then join Dr Rosina McAlpine, family wellbeing and parenting expert  and the many families on the Insight TV show on SBS hosted by Kumi Taguchi   Bring your tissues - you'll laugh, you'll cry and you'll learn as families talk about their only children and the struggles they've experienced and overcome and Dr Rosina reveals where the myths come from and the research that shows across all developmental outcomes, only children were found to be indistinguishable from firstborns and people from small families and more.....   Read full article here. Episode appears on SBS 3rd September 2024 and you can watch below.

We know from the research that children do much better emotionally and psychologically after separation and divorce if the parents communicate respectfully and relate amicably. We also know that maintaining consistency and routines - where possible - even if travelling between two homes, supports children to have some structure and security allowing for better post-divorce adjustment. It's not always easy for parents to communicate calmly and agree even when they're living in the same home. Relationships post separation can be challenging and stressful - especially if there is lingering anger and resentment towards the other parent. Apps can provide a "buffer" between separated parents allowing them to make decisions about the children without heated arguments - allowing for more harmony, structure and success post separation and divorce. When parents can make decisions in the best interest of the child in a calm and structured way, everybody wins! To read the full article written by other parenting experts see https://www.momjunction.com/articles/co-parenting-apps_00651599/

Published in Herald Sun Saturday, February 19,2011 PARENTING - RAISING CAN-DO KIDS BY CHERYL CRITCHLEY Work demands are denying many parents the opportunity to develop vital life skills in their children, writes Cheryl Critchley Sadly, many parents are now too busy to parent. I’m not talking about using childcare, but about outsourcing almost anything that involves time and effort, such as birthday parties, exercise and even mental stimulation. These are the sorts of things we should be doing with our kids, developing our relationship and helping them gain life skills. But unfortunately, when both parents work full-time, it is easy to pay someone else to organise your party or teach your child art or how to kick a footy. We’ve had more than our share of McDonald’s birthday parties and bought costumes and food for special days rather than make them together.  A hectic work schedule also meant bike rides and park plays were few and far between. Things have improved since I changed my work situation, but few families can afford a big pay cut to balance their lifestyle. So what do you do? University educator, researcher and mother Dr Rosina McAlpine  believes many parents now sit at the extremes and are either overprotective or take little interest in their child’s development.  McAlpine developed an affordable program helping parents raising can do kids. Inspired Children uses 15-minute activities twice a week over a year. Children develop skills and personal qualities such as self esteem, resilience, communication, play and creativity. “Parents and children have such busy lives that I felt 15 minutes two times per week was reasonable and could be achieved,” McAlpine says.  “The aim of each activity is to introduce a life skill that will continue to be developed through experience and reflection and further activities in the program.” In one game the parent lets the child win and talks about what it means to lose, be resilient and not achieve what you want in life. The child then loses and talks about how they feel. “It is all about awareness, experience and role modelling by the parent,” McAlpine says. “Many parents let their children win every game- they don't get to experience losing and life is just not like that.”  McAlpine says many of her tips are common sense strategies all parents can learn but are often too time poor to attend courses or read books.“Everything I include is available in the world to every parent by talking with other mothers, reading books, attending free parenting courses/seminars or surfing the internet,” she says. In an ideal world all parents would make the time to learn strategies in areas they may be lacking in.  But we know it isn’t that simple and easy to follow programs like this are better than letting things slip.As Mc Alpine says, we don’t want a generation of young people who can’t do anything for themselves. She sees this all the time as a university teacher. She sees this all the time as a university teacher. “I’ve been a university lecturer for over 20 years and I can’t tell you how many times I have heard my first year students say things like ... ‘I don’t know how to cook’. ‘I’m sick of living off two minute noodles and takeaway’ … ‘I feel really lonely and depressed’ … (or) ‘I’ve just failed my exam and I’ve never failed anything in my life. I can’t cope’,” she says. Some parents make excuses for their offspring, such as saying they have so much pressure to succeed at school that they shouldn’t have to do housework. But McAlpine says parenting is about helping children prepare for life.  “To live a full, happy and balanced life children need to develop key life skills and personal attributes like good self esteem, resilience, communication skills, the ability to set and achieve goals, personal and home cleanliness and an understanding of health, wellbeing- the list goes on.”  Building resilience Discourage negative self-talk when something goes wrong like a bad exam result.  Encourage children to look at the positives and move forward. Tell them everyone makes mistakes and we can all learn from them. Role play situations that could go wrong at school, like a toilet accident or teasing and work through coping strategies with them. Teach them life skills such as how to cook and manage money. Develop their social and environmental awareness. Encourage their communication skills, creativity and imagination.

Dr Rosina interviewed on Nights with Walter Williams Fairfax Radio Network - talking about the importance of role models in children's lives.

Published on Fox News. Article by Nicole Darrah View original article A 2-year-old child was found dead inside a parked car in  Kansas  on Sunday — marking the ninth such death in the country in the three-week span since a  New York  dad made national headlines for accidentally leaving his twins in a hot car for hours. The toddler who died Sunday was discovered just before 6 p.m. in  Lawrence , a city roughly 40 miles southwest of  Kansas City ,  Mo . Investigators said they received a call about someone who'd been "left unattended," and medical responders determined the child was dead at the scene. FLORIDA MOM ACCIDENTALLY LOCKS BABY IN VEHICLE, OFFICER SMASHES WINDOW TO SAVE BABY FROM HOT CAR At least 33 children have died so far this year from heatstroke while in parked cars,  according to Kids and Cars , a nonprofit organization that tracks such deaths. The deaths of Luna and Phoenix Rodriguez on July 26 are among the most high-profile of those cases and helped merge discussions about the annual epidemic from separate, localized tragedies into a connected, national issue. Juan Rodriguez, 39,  said he "blanked out"  when he left Luna and Phoenix in his car as he worked an eight-hour shift. "My babies are dead! I killed my babies!" he reportedly said after realizing he left his twins in the car, where officials said their internal body temperatures registered 108 degrees Fahrenheit. Described as an "amazing" father of five, Rodriguez told police he thought he dropped off the children at daycare before he went to work. Already this year, nearly three dozen juveniles — children as young as 4 months and as old as 13 years, living in states from  California  to  New York  — have died, often due to parents who say they simply forgot their child was in the vehicle. How can this happen? Such deaths are incomprehensible to many who read about them and are particularly puzzling to most parents, who can't begin to fathom how anyone can forget where their kid is — nevermind when that kid is just inches away in the backseat of a vehicle. Dr. Rosina McAlpine, a  parenting expert  and CEO of  Win Win Parenting , told Fox News that parents or caregivers are often in such a rush to get to work, or an appointment, or any one of countless other obligations, they "forget they haven't dropped the child off at daycare or school and rush off to the meeting or work distracted, leaving their child behind." ARIZONA BABY REPORTEDLY RESCUED FROM HOT CAR AS MOM SHOPPED AT TARGET "Later they remember in shock but often it is too late," she said, noting some parents alternate dropping their child off at daycare, and might "forget it was their turn." Similarly, McAlpine notes that people other than a parent, like a caregiver, a teacher, a grandparent or other relative, "may not be used to having a child in the car on a regular basis." As noted by the parenting expert, 429 children who died from heatstroke in cars from 1998 to 2018, or 53.8 percent, were forgotten by their caregivers,  according to an analysis  from NoHeatStroke.org . Another 209 children gained access to the car on their own. The deaths of Luna and Phoenix Rodriguez on July 26 are among the most high-profile of those cases and helped merge discussions about the annual epidemic from separate, localized tragedies into a connected, national issue. Juan Rodriguez, 39,  said he "blanked out"  when he left Luna and Phoenix in his car as he worked an eight-hour shift. "My babies are dead! I killed my babies!" he reportedly said after realizing he left his twins in the car, where officials said their internal body temperatures registered 108 degrees Fahrenheit. Described as an "amazing" father of five, Rodriguez told police he thought he dropped off the children at daycare before he went to work. Already this year, nearly three dozen juveniles — children as young as 4 months and as old as 13 years, living in states from  California  to  New York  — have died, often due to parents who say they simply forgot their child was in the vehicle. What are other ways I can protect my child? Experts often suggest placing items — especially ones people know they won't forget — like a cell phone, or a purse or wallet, in the back seat of a vehicle to remind you of a child's presence, or even putting one of the child's toys on the front seat to remind the driver of who's in the back. It's also recommended that parents place their children in the middle of the back seat, rather than near the doors. Since drivers are constantly looking at their rearview mirror while they drive, if they can see the child in that line of sight, there's less of a chance caregivers will forget them.

As Christmas approaches, managing children's expectations becomes crucial. Dr. Rosina advises focusing on holiday rituals like decorating, baking, and watching movies rather than just gifts. She suggests acknowledging children's desires and explaining that not all wishes can be fulfilled immediately, encouraging delayed gratification. For sibling comparisons, she recommends empathy and redirecting attention to shared blessings. Dr. Rosina emphasizes the importance of small disappointments in teaching resilience. She also highlights the value of gratitude and slowing down present-opening to savor each gift. Delayed gratification is linked to success in various life aspects, reinforcing the importance of these lessons.

As a parent, when your kids throw a tantrum, it can make you feel all kind of things, depending on the day. But it's all completely normal, in fact it would probably be weird if your kids were perfect angels all of the time. There are some reasons behind the dramatic outbursts though. Dr Rosina McAlpine, from Australia, is a childcare expert at Win Win Parenting, and knows a thing or two about why children misbehave. Read full Article

Article by Cosima Marriner for Sydney Morning Herald Extract Rosina McAlpine wrote  Inspired Children: How the Leading Minds of Today Raise Their Kids , because she believes child-rearing is a skill that must be learned. ''We've got this perception that we're supposed to inherently know how to be a good mother, but it's time we 'fessed up - we've got no freakin' clue,'' Dr McAlpine says. She defines a good mum as one who teaches her child to manage their emotions, develop healthy eating and exercise habits, build resilience, and believe in themselves. ''The best thing you can do right now is go on a parenting course rather than worry about what clothes your child is wearing,'' Dr McAlpine says. ''You're developing a child's brain, emotions, physicality. How about getting a bit of help?'' Link to full article

Interview audio courtesy of 2GB We've all heard of the terms "mummy's boy" and "daddy's girl" and usually it comes with negative connotations. Well not anymore! A new UK study by the Marriage Foundation (August 2018) reveals that children who are close to their parents have better mental health outcomes and stronger social skills. In this short audio clip Ben Fordham, radio host on 2GB interviews parenting expert, Dr Rosina McAlpine, CEO of Win Win Parenting.  You'll learn why having a close relationship with your kids is important and tips for how to achieve it!